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July 11, 2025 – Boundaries, Chapter 5-6

July 11, 2025 /

These are the last two chapters of part one. I am going to spend most of this post talking about chapter five rather than six, for reasons that I will explain when we get there. The author’s rightly claim that to be successful in any endeavor, you must know ‘the rules’ of the game. Chapter five is all about the ten rules of boundaries.

I will quickly list the ten rules below.

  1. Sowing and reaping
  2. Responsibility
  3. Power
  4. Respect
  5. Motivation
  6. Evaluation
  7. Proactivity
  8. Envy
  9. Activity
  10. Exposure

I don’t really feel like duplicating the work already printed in this chapter. It is redundant and I am not any sort of expert in the topic. In case you are not reading the book, it is probably worth putting some definition on each of these rules. It also helps me remember in two or three years what this book was all about. I do that sometimes.

  • Sowing and reaping – This is pretty evident what it means. The one thing that struck me as unique is that sometimes people do not reap what they sow because someone else does it instead, see responsibility below.
  • Responsibility – We cannot have successful boundaries if we do not take responsibility for our actions. A classic failure is the idea of codependency.
  • Power – Just like the 12 steps idea, we have to acknowledge that there are some things that are completely within out control. By the same token, there are issues that entirely out of our hands.
  • Respect – I think that this is two fold. The first is that we won’t get respect if we do not give respect. Similarly, we have to trust that others will respect boundaries if given meaning that if we don’t state our boundaries, some people may realize that there is a boundary.
  • Motivation – We have to have desire to set boundaries. Usually that lack of desire is a result of fear of action like it will hurt someone else or make them angry. Our motivation has to be independent of what we thing the actions of others will result.
  • Evaluation – This law is more about the how and when to express boundaries. It is true that setting down the line can cause hurt feelings but what are the repercussions of not doing it? Sensitive subjects demand sensitive conversations.
  • Proactivity – State your boundaries up front. I do think that the trick is to perform the proper Evaluation before blurting something out that is out of context.
  • Envy – The best way that I can describe this is that it is the opposite of what we want. We need to be aware of our own hang-ups to be able to effectively communicate what we do want.
  • Activity – If I understand this correctly, this law is intended to keep moving forward. After you state your intentions, you have to follow through with enforcing the boundaries as well as staying in relationship.
  • Exposure – Clearly, values and boundaries have to be known.

I think that the part that kind of bothers me about these laws are they are not clearly distinct. For instance, Proactivity, Activity and Exposure are closely related. Sowing and Reaping along with Responsibility are closely related. Envy seems like an anti-law. I will be honest, I think that this would have way impact if the laws were tidied up quite a bit. I cannot clearly say a particular scenario fits one law or the other.

Moving on to chapter six. I suppose that maybe this chapter was necessary. It is about the hang-ups for having boundaries. I kind of found it a weak, whine fest which is why I chose to not spend much time on the chapter. This is the list from the book.

  1. Boundaries are selfish
  2. Boundaries are disobedient
  3. Boundaries others will hurt me
  4. Boundaries hurt others
  5. Boundaries mean that I am angry
  6. Boundaries injure me
  7. Boundaries cause guilt
  8. Boundaries burn bridges

End Your Programming Routine: I had read to this point when I started writing about this book a few weeks ago. It probably explains my kind of sour start. Some of the earlier chapters I felt relatively insightful. Unfortunately, these two feel bloated and need refining. I suppose the alternative is that I am just not getting it, I guess that you can be the judge of that.

July 10, 2025 – A New Knife in the Kitchen

July 10, 2025 /

Happy Anniversary to me. My wife recently purchased 7″ Santoku by Cutco as a gift and I have been using it quite a bit. I will be honest, it wasn’t exactly on my list. I have been looking for a new kitchen knife, but I was really interested in a carbon steel blade. The reason being is that I wanted a blade that would be easy to sharpen at home.

This Cutco knife is stainless steel and guaranteed for life. They have a lifetime sharpening plan but that supposes that you ship it back to New York. I will more than likely try it at some point in my life but have not had a knife to try.

I am no stranger to the Cutco brand. We have some steak knives and we have some kitchen utensils but nothing that benefits from razor sharpness like kitchen knives. They are definitely high quality and I believe that they will last for a lifetime. No disrespect intended on the brand and I will have years to see if it worth the hype.

When we got married, we got some department, gift store certificates. One on those we spent on a set of knives. They happened to be J. A. Henkel International brand. They are high quality but a step down from the flagship line (not International). They have been good knives and my only problem is that the steel is very hard.

I have spent hours sharpening knives. It is often something I will do in front of a football game or something like that. I can get the knives to a point where they will slice through the sponge when washing if you are not careful. But, it definitely came at a cost of effort. Hence why I was looking for an easier to sharpen knife.

If I knew then what I know now, I am a believer in one quality knife. Ninety-five percent of what I do in the kitchen involves the 8″ chef’s knife. The other knives in my drawer have niche roles. There is one that I pretty much exclusively use for cheese, there is a boning knife that I find doesn’t work that well. The paring knife gets some intricate work, but very little. The only knife I focus on keeping sharp is the chef’s knife.

My first use of this knife came as soon as my wife presented it to me. She got it at Costco and I needed to re-package some pork chops. I slid the tip across the plastic wrap and not only did it cut the plastic but also scored the meat as well. Yes, this thing was sharp out of the box. I was dreaming up dishes that I could put the knife to the test.

The first night, I made some Asian chicken, lettuce wraps. It wasn’t a huge test but it was something. The next night I was planning to make some red Thai curry, now we are talking. After a couple of weeks using it now, I can say that it slices like a house of fire. I think that due to the blade design, the tip is hard to ‘get in there’.

The other thing that I have noticed is that I do a lot of dicing with chef’s knife. I hate to do dishes and so I will take three times longer with the knife than to dirty some other kitchen too. The design of the santoku knife doesn’t have a lot curvature to it. This doesn’t make dicing as easy because that motion is a rocking of the blade.

The biggest culprit for dulling knives is there handling while cleaning. I have to be on guard for sticking in the dishwasher and jamming in the metal drying rack. Once blades get nicked, it takes a lot of sharpening to fix that. That is why I am kind of a Nazi about their handling. Everybody in the house knows it but they don’t spend the hours with the consequences.

End Your Programming Routine: This is my first Japanese style blade. It is a good knife for sure but I am not sure it is the panacea that I was looking for. On slicing heavy meals like a stir fry, I think that it will be a go to. On a dicing heavy meal like tacos, I think that I will stick with the chef’s knife. It is probably a push for balanced prep. Funny as it may seem, this new knife has kind of reignited kitchen creativity. I look forward to more testing.

July 9, 2025 – Check One Thing Off the List

July 9, 2025 /

You can see the finished product of the rot repair and the window installation. What I see is a little bit of painting that needs to be done. The unfortunate part is that all three colors need to be painted and I have pretty much used all of the gray. That means a trip to Sherwin Williams to get some more paint. This would be the first time I have had to buy that color since we have painted our house about ten years ago (Wow, I cant believe it has been that long).

I can no longer call myself a paint insider since it has been over twenty years since I have worked in the industry. At one time, I used to know all of the movers and shakers in the industry. I might have even known too much about it. This is not a nation wide endorsement, but I prefer Sherwin Williams because I knew the head chemist and I knew that they had a Pacific Northwest test facility.

There were also some local companies making paint. But, like I said I knew all the movers and shakers which means I knew the strengths and weaknesses. Clearly locals were going to have some sort of local testing, but we have specific performance needs in the Pacific Northwest. The same would be true in the desert southwest or the Midwest or anywhere else for that matter.

That is a long way of saying that I believe in paint that has local test facilities, not all brands do. What these test facilities do is generate long term data with formulations. We are concerned with bleaching and mildew resistance. Generally speaking, price is an indicator of quality. Quality is defined by longevity, ease of application and coverage ability. I will talk about that a little bit.

Longevity to me is first will the paint stay on the substrate once it is down. Some of the problems I have seen are thing like alligatoring where the paint flakes off over time. There is also chalking, where the surface becomes chalky causing adherence problems and is more of an oil based problem. Yellowing or fading has to do with the composition of the paint.

What I mean by ease of application is more about prep than actually painting. A line like Super Paint from Sherwin Williams is a primer and paint combined. This eliminates the requirements to prime first (at least on bare wood). But, also can it paint on oil based gloss or does that have to be sanded or removed. I really don’t advise this but I watched the painter paint over moss and mildew and it still looks good today (from a distance).

Coverage ability is not just how much square footage a gallon will go but also how many coats do you need. When painting our house, we did most of it in Super Paint because it is cheaper than the line up Resilience. But, that step up would allow complete one coat coverage. When they sprayed the house in dark blue, they didn’t bother with covering the trim because one roller coat of white was perfectly fine. You pay for that because Resilience is 50% more expensive than Super Paint.

I know, this kind of sounds like a Sherwin Williams commercial. I have confidence that there are some other brands out there that perform just as well, this is what I am familiar and comfortable with. I would highly advise buying your paint from a paint store and not a box store. While the prices might be similar at each, the products are not. You are just going to get a better product at a paint store for similar money. And this stuff is not cheap. One gallon of Super Paint at list price is $85.

Since I painted my house with Super Paint and the work was new, I simply painted. No other prep was involved. That was a major labor saver.

End Your Programming Routine: I got the painting done in about four hours, all three colors and I even painted over some of the ten year old sections to make sure the color stayed even. I have painted a lot of houses over the years. I really wouldn’t want it as a career, but there can definitely be some zen in it. Unlike most building materials, paint is one thing that has improved over the years. And, it always feels good to check something off the list.

July 8, 2025 – Visible Evolution

July 8, 2025 /

We are now on our third Ecovac Deebot (see picture below). These things are not cheap but given how much our dog sheds hair, it saves from having to vacuum more frequently. Our model also mops, but after testing the use once we have never actually used the feature. Part of that is because switching between the two requires manual intervention. Given that it adds to the price tag, I am not sure why we keep getting the feature that we don’t use.

Probably about six years or so ago, we bought the first model. It lasted probably two or three years. In fact, we even sent it back to be rebuilt because it lost it’s way around the house. It did work, but shortly we found out that the dog hair was clogging the discharge. Consequently, every day I would manually empty the dust pan. It also had a propensity to lose its map and so every few weeks we would have to remap the house.

When it stopped working the second time, my wife decided to replace it with a newer model. I was very thankful that I no longer had to remember to empty the dust bin. This second generation seemed to remember it’s map so that was also a win. It was also more robust than the first one. I wouldn’t get stuck on carpets as an example. But is was also a brute. There have been several mornings I found it wedged (and stuck) under the toe kick.

So, while the second generation was significantly less likely to be stuck, probably several times a week I would find it stopped in the middle of the room. These things are not without maintenance. The first thing I would do is try to determine if something that wasn’t supposed to be wrapped up in the brushes. After that I would check to see if there was hair wrapped around the main spindle causing heat and friction. Inevitably, the battery would be dead. I never could quite tell if it died in place or kept trying to work which killed the battery.

For some reason, my wife decided to replace unit two. She said that she didn’t think it was working very well. I don’t know, I didn’t notice anything unusual. She installed unit three about two weeks ago. So far so good. This one must have a bigger motor because I feel like it uses the battery much quicker. However, the thing this one does is actually go back to the base station to charge. It will then pickup where it left off.

It hasn’t run long enough to notice any quirks. My wife is a big fan of the Ruggable product which is an area rug that is two pieces. There is a backing and there is the washable rug. These vacuums have a propensity to suck up the top layer. Most of the time it goes right over it, but then there are other times where it actually gets wrapped up in the robot. I am not sure that is the robot’s fault but every morning we have to flip corners back onto the velcro backing.

There must be a lot of feedback that goes back to the manufacturer. I am amazed at how quickly these things have become better in a short period of time. I count 64 models on their website and they are not the only people making such products. I know that I am certainly jaded, that comes from years and years of seeing inferior products continue to be inferior. I couldn’t believe that our second generation actually would empty the dust bin, that seemed like such a win.

End Your Programming Routine: If something happens to my wife, I will more than likely let the Deebot go. In my opinion, it is a maintenance hassle as well as a consumables are costly. You trade your time for the task in troubleshooting and keeping the robot running. It also is not a substitute for a manual sweeping or vacuuming. Things block the robot from doing a complete job. But with pets indoors, it does a pretty good job of knocking most of the hair down and it stays on top of it.

July 7, 2025 – Do Or Die

July 7, 2025 /

The origin of this podcast came from me needing to get my notes put together for a podcast. I thought it would be cute to carry the theme through the rest of the podcast. That means that I am talking about projects and initiatives that I have in the pipeline. You might be surprised at my conclusion or my take on it at least.

July 3, 2025 – Boundaries, Chapters 3-4

July 3, 2025 /

Last week I wrote about what it means to not have boundaries. I think that we can all imagine such things. As promised, this week I am getting more technical with the types of personalities define boundary issues. And then in chapter 4, it talks about how boundaries are defined and recognize as us individuals.

At some point, we all have boundary issues. Maybe you are not the aggressor but the one aggressed upon. Only one of those situations do we have any sort of control which is why we all have boundary issues. Depending on your personality type is how you default to boundary situations.

Chapter Three is titled “What are boundaries”. There are essentially four different types of boundary definitions. Here they are.

  • Compliant – Feels guilty and/or controlled by others.  Can’t set boundaries.
  • Avoidants – Sets boundaries against getting help from others.
  • Controllers – Aggressively or manipulatively violates boundaries against others.
  • Non Responsive – Sets boundaries against the responsibility to love.

In the book, these types are placed in a table. The Compliants can’t say no and the Non-Responsives can’t say yes. The Avoidants can’t hear no while the Controllers cannot hear yes. When you look at the four types, do you see yourself? I sure do, Much like the Myers-Briggs tests and other such personality tests, I don’t necessarily find myself squarely one category all of the time.

Ironically, I can see myself with all of them from time to time. In my marriage, I am almost completely Compliant. In my non-working time outside of my marriage, I am almost completely Avoidant. While I am at work I am a combination of Controller and Non-Responsive. I can think of times that I have knowingly ignored subordinates requests to try and grow at the expense of trying. But, that has been rare and far and few between.

I don’t think that I am an alien or something not human. I am not sure that it is normal to have all four traits but I also don’t think it is abnormal to have different responses in different situations. It probably is a good indication of why I am always striving to be fiercely independent and self-reliant. It probably explains why I have issues ‘fitting in’.

That being said, my dichotomy speaks to the two types of boundaries, functional versus relational. Functional boundaries are things related to task completion whereas relational has to do with people. I won’t lie, I do think that my functional boundaries are stronger than my relational. I don’t have as much of an issue standing up for myself in a work situation because I feel like I have less to lose.

Chapter four is titled “How boundaries are developed”. This is an very interesting chapter in that it describes the necessary states to not only grow up but also to develop healthy boundaries. When boundary problems develop, it is often a trauma or stunting at a particular stage. Examples of those causes from the book are things like withdrawal from boundaries, hostility against boundaries, overcontrol, lack of limits, inconsistent limits, trauma

There are five developmental stages that have purpose. They are:

  • Bonding (birth) – mother and child bond
  • Separation (6 mos – toddler) – recognizing that independence is necessary
  • Hatching (child) – developing independent personality
  • Reproachment (child) – establishing boundaries with safe limits
  • Practicing (pre-teen to teen) – Acting within boundaries with ever increasing control

I look at this list and I can see exactly where my development diminished. Since it is biological, bonding and separation happen. I think that my development slowed in Hatching and severely stunted in Reproachment. This seems to be an extremely common occurrence with strict parenting. When a child is not allowed to safely say no then they do not develop the skills to set personal boundaries.

Clearly, not everything remains static. My sister (youngest) had much less in the terms strict boundaries than I did. My brother rebelled and had much more friction. His personality was stronger in determination to become independent whereas my sister really did not have to try that hard.

End Your Programming Routine: I am not complaining, it is just the way it is. And it certainly is not an excuse to not address the problem. This book has already changed my perspective on boundaries. I now realize that I have issues as well rather than strictly thinking I am the victim.

July 2, 2025 – Summer Projects

July 3, 2025 /

For the last couple of weeks, stuff has been piling up in our foyer. The reality is that a lot of these projects are not really necessary but as my wife is fond of saying, ‘happy wife, happy life’. It doesn’t say that much for me, but the optional things are relatively easy. It is the necessary ones that are going to be a lot more work.

We have lived in this house over 20 years. That entire time, we have had a heat pump downstairs but no air conditioning upstairs. We had our bedroom upstairs for at least 13 of those years and the truth be told, I only found a handful of days a year to be too hot. Nevertheless, we are having house guests in a couple of weeks. My wife wanted to ensure they were comfortable.

I suppose where it finally cracked, my son’s room is south facing. I won’t lie that it does get hot. But, over the years he has declined the offer for air conditioning. Our exchange student was staying in my son’s room and he spent several nights sleeping downstairs in May when we were in the 90s. Now that he is gone, we are cleaning up the remnants and my son is moving back into his room. It is the perfect time to get the new AC unit installed. I have a second one to install in the upstairs family room.

Speaking of my son’s room, he is also getting a new ceiling fan. My wife says that it needs to be replaced because it is old. What? Remember ‘happy wife, happy life’. The truth is the pull string has been broken pretty short. The reason is the kids would jump off the bed and pull on it breaking it. I know because I have caught them doing it.

This could be repaired for a couple of dollars; I have also done that before. But, it is best not to fight it. I have to say it does look new and more contemporary. The new fan is significantly inferior to the old one. This one has two lightbulbs where the other one had four. Also, the access to remove the globe requires you to reach your fingers up and over the metal fixture, inside of a channel.

The worst part is that I had to completely take the whole fan apart twice. Once because the blade was rubbing on the switch. After that was fixed, I found out that one of the supply wires was rubbing on the fan motor. That is done now.

Now that we have had the dry rot repaired and the new windows are installed, that has spawned two projects. The first is all of the replacement work has to be painted on the exterior. The second project is that I need to do drywall finishing on the inside.

I guess that because those are separate trades, then that is why they do them. It does seem like for two days of work and $5000 in labor that I would have a week’s worth of effort to finish. They did do the initial mud and tape job and it was pretty sloppy, so they did me a favor by stopping and not charging me more.

But wait, there is more. For my wife’s birthday (and anniversary) she want’s a new vanity and light fixtures in the bathroom, bedroom and dining room. This definitely makes my shopping easier but I already had a plan for what I wanted to buy. Now, I am going to have quite a bit of work to get all of this work done. Keep using the phrase ‘happy wife, happy life’.

I think that is enough to do this summer. As I have already stated in my podcast there is still plenty going on in life the summer as well. I am assuming that I can complete all that in the summer time frame. You can expect that there will be periodic updates on all of the work. The fan and AC are done now, at least my foyer is clear of boxes at this point for now.

End Your Programming Routine: We are currently in a holding pattern for cancer treatment. There have been some mixed results on the testing and so the doctors want to wait and retest in a few months. My wife really wanted to wait until the fall to get started anyway, looks like there will be no choice now. Hopefully, I can get the projects finished before my life is turned upside down again.

July 1, 2025 – To Be a Kid Again

July 1, 2025 /

When I was a kid, I loved Legos. Between my brother and I, we didn’t have a ton of them but certainly enough to be creative. There wasn’t the plethora of different lines that they have today but I was partial to the ‘Space’ series. A couple of those kinds of sets along with a good foundation of basic blocks gave us enough to build lots of things.

The pinnacle of what we built was a clipper, sailing ship complete with cloth sails and rigging. My only regret is that we didn’t have enough of the same colors to make the ship really look proper. I was pretty proud of that back then and if they had allowed Legos in the state fair then, I think we could have won. I have a picture of it somewhere, maybe I will try to find it some day.

The Legos of today seem to have tons of specialty parts. I feel like that takes some of the creativity out of the process. For one thing, after I built the model and threw away the instructions, that was the one and only time the actual structure was built as intended. Everything else was improvised.

I know that when I built my Ford GT500, all I did was follow the instructions. Everything was in unit bags and all you had to do was open the unit bag and follow the instructions sequentially. It certainly took several hours but honestly it was easy. I see no reason why the most advanced kits are labelled for ages 18+. Honestly, a determined 12 year old should be able to follow directions and complete the model without breaking a sweat.

My wife bought me this set for Father’s Day. It is from the ‘Botanical’ line. I am taking my time building one type of flower a day. This is just to extend the enjoyment that I am getting from doing this. I don’t think it will ever get disassembled and my wife wants to display them where we currently have a Lego cityscape.

There are certain pastimes that I did as a youth that I honestly believe were highly influential as an adult. Those things would be reading, Legos, G.I. Joes, Dungeons and Dragons and drawing. Some of things I have written or spoken about before and some I have not. I am pretty sure this is the first time I have written about Legos at least.

We had this old, brown fleece covered bean bag. That thing became army base, moon scape, race track etc. I remember times when it would be all setup and then it was time to put stuff away for the night. I instructed everyone in the family not to touch the bean bag because it would then ruin the scenario that was setup for future play. You know what? It worked more often than it did not.

Not having a build plan, not having a bunch of specialty parts, not having access to mind numbing TV is what made this so beneficial. I had to look for pieces, I had to estimate scale from a picture, I had to figure out how a bunch of squared off blocks could make a curve of a hull. I think that another thing I learned was that if I didn’t have the exact part, it was going to be OK.

We like puzzles in this house. I think puzzles and Legos share some common elements. But more so than that, I believe that puzzles are good for the brain. This is especially true for analytical skills. There is pattern searching and recognition as well as visualization involved.

One other thing I notice with puzzles as well is that the efficacy diminishes over time. I attribute that to brain fatigue. I think that awareness with puzzles can help you become cognizant of when you are starting to see brain fatigue.

End Your Programming Routine: We often do a puzzle during a break time like Thanksgiving or Christmas. That has become a mixture of Legos or a puzzle over the last ten years. As I stated above, I think that they provide similar kinds of benefits albeit puzzles are significantly more difficult and cheaper. The next time you are wanting to go back in time a little bit, try building a Lego set.

June 27, 2025 – Boundaries, Chapters 1-2

June 27, 2025 /

I have been a fan of the Dave Ramsey book list for many years and this book has been on my to read list for all of them.  The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People is also recommended by me as well.  Other titles like Who Moved My Cheese have a message but I find to be a bit situational. 

I kind of, sort of had fantasies of reading this and having an epiphany when my wife’s parents were alive.  Boundaries were a huge issue in our relationship.  I left them more to my wife to deal with because I felt like I didn’t want to get in the middle of their relationship.  That was probably the wrong thing to do because we each as individuals have boundaries.  I am just as entitled to have my boundaries as well.  What a complicated mess.

I wanted to buy copies for both of us.  I thought by reading it, we would self-reflect on the lessons and things would get better.  I realize now that was probably not going to happen.  Part of why I held off was I was uncertain about whether the idea was insulting.  I also realize that boundaries have two parties with the aggressor and the egressed. 

A number one problem with people violating boundaries is not knowing (my problem) or not caring (their problem).  Hence the need to study boundaries.  I kind of just accepted that this was the way things were going to be without stating my wants in the situation.  This is a little bit unfair to them and it certainly did not make me any happier. 

This of course caused friction within the marriage as well.  My wife was unhappy at the constant conflict over boundaries who then brought them to me.  I would then in turn defer to her and nothing would get resolved.  My stance was, if you wanted a relationship then this was the price that was to be paid.  I should mention that she was very good and up front about boundaries which is why I expressed my attitude a above. 

Chapter one is an anecdotal story about a woman who struggles in happiness because of being buffered about in a life without boundaries.  I have kind of violated my principles by reading way ahead and so I am kind of biased about this book already.  Let me warn you up front that this book is highly based on Christian principles.  While I think that there is some value for everyone, it feels like throughout the book it is the ‘meek Christian’ that cannot dare to set boundaries.

I have met these people for sure and the audience is clearly intended for the faithful but to me it feels extremely stereotypical.  Being paralyzed in the ‘turn the other cheek’ mentality to not be able to function in life is more rare than it would seem based on the book.  There is nothing wrong with faith base counseling, in fact I think that it helps set the proper perspective and context for us faithful.  But, I do think that it is wrong to come at this as a crisis of faith.  That idea discounts a lot of people that probably need these words but will be turned off by the faith forward approach.

Let’s not throw the baby out with the bathwater yet.  Chapter two is about all the different kinds of boundaries.  Some of them are not personal based but culturally based.  For instance, I noticed in China the personal zone was extremely different than what I was used to.  In line for the subway, people would literally press right up against others.  What we would consider a tight western line would have some air right in between two people.  It was one of the things that I was quite ready to leave when I came back home because it felt very suffocating.

Reading all of the different types of boundary examples did make me understand that I also had boundary violations.  It wasn’t just that others transgressing on me but that I failed to express where mine were.  I always felt like people should know not to do this or that but then it completely makes sense that if I do not communicate as such that this kind of thing could happen.

End Your Programming Routine: Hopefully, things get better from here.  I have started out a bit negative which I do feel is warranted.  But, like I said let’s give it a chance.  Next week we will get a little more scientific about the subject.  I will talk more about the book instead of my own situation instead.